Abusive word

You can either voice out or you can choose to endure till when you’re ready, reply with “let’s do it”. The thing is, if people know that you can’t leave them, they use this to control you. You can say and do many things out of anger, but not everyone will still be there to wait for you to regret your actions. I used to be in a manipulative rs too, because my partner know that I won’t leave him, so he often used leaving me to emotionally control me if things don’t go the way he wants. It took me 5 years to finally reply him “ok, as you wished”. Within 2 years of leaving him, he still tries to get me back but I’m long over this sh*t and couldn’t be bothered. I used 5 years to know my worth and to understand that it’s not worth it.

if you still want to stay in this marriage I would suggest counselling. saying things in anger is emotional abuse and unfair to you. I almost left but stayed because I love him and I know he loves me and agreed to go for therapy. After a few sessions he no longer says such things and is more conscious with his words. lashing out in anger is abuse. you don't have to stand for it.